Have a look at how resilient people behave.

You too can learn to be more resilient.

• Resilient people take time to reflect and know themselves.

• Know their needs, joys and frustrations.

• Know their goals, values and beliefs.

• Know their limits.

• Know what’s in their control and what’s not.

• Develop and use their strengths.

• Look at the bigger picture of their lives.

• Understand their personal styles and personal history and how these relate to their current behaviour (learned and automatic patterns of doing things).

• Resilient people develop healthy attitudes.

• Develop an attitude of acceptance, tolerance, flexibility and optimism.

• Are prepared to learn and accept feedback.

• Seek realistic expectations.

• Learn to see opportunities in all things.

• Accept their own style of doing things AND aim for growth.

• Accept personal responsibility and commit to working at things.

• Talk and listen and seek help when appropriate.

• Accept realities of life and change and learn how to let go.

• Aim for a mindful and respectful approach to people, emotions and problems.

• Resilient people maintain their body, mind and soul

• Maintain a personal stress management plan.

• Feed their bodies with good ‘fuel’ – balanced diet; limited stimulants and depressants.

• Keep active with exercise and activity.

• Rest and relax; laugh and seek fun.

• Manage frustration well.

• Participate in life by doing things they enjoy and stimulating their mind (learning).

• Maintain support and relationships – spend time with others.

• Resilient people organise their environment and their life.

• Take time to set goals and review progress.

• Aim for workable balance for health (work-life balance).

• Organise their time to meet balanced demands.

• Plan for known difficulties and challenges.

• Take steps early to manage or remove barriers with active problem solving.

• Use goal setting and active problem solving to move around change and challenges as they arise.

• Use assertive communication skills to manage their needs and negotiate with others.

• Set limits and accept them.

• Learn how to say no.

• Take things a step at a time.